Tag: socialmedia

Mess media

I have been taking a break from conventional social media. Specifically youtube and instagram. My instagram is about 80% people who I actually know, 5% strangers and 15% news media. On youtube I follow people who relay the news usually in a comical way and a few related to my field of work. I rarely use facebook as that is mostly comprised of crazy family members who I know too much about to be able to appreciate their online persona.

Overall social media is a bunch of people shouting at the same time and this creates a lot of noise in my head. I used to believe it made me more connected to happenings in the world and my social circle but I now appreciate the benefit of being in my own crazy thoughts. Music and television are another source of noise I am trying to reduce.

I used to believe that reading the newspapers was something that educated and thinking people do but the newspapers have become as trashy as the tabloids at the checkout counter. They are filled with opinions, biased viewpoints and many articles are sponsored by special interest groups or corporations. Its understandable. In a world filled with different forms of media and constant demands on your attention, companies have to compete aggressively to earn that attention. Unfortunately it has become a race to the bottom. Sex, violence, fear mongering, hyperbole, no stone is unturned to achieve shock value. Our level of tolerance just increases until it takes greater shock to get our attention.

Eventually this pushes us so far from where we sustainably and holistically should be and the people in our social circle may think we are mentally limited if we do not know the latest manufactured outrage story. Which is replaced by another outrage story every second.

I understand the butterfly effect and sincerely believe that we are all connected in some way. We all share this existence and have and effect on it, but I don’t need to know if a tree fell in the forest. I know that trees fall in the forest, but I don’t need a breaking news update every minute about it.

We are in the information age but the flood of information is useless for the most part. It is mostly click bait that adds nothing to our lives.

Additionally there is the gossip and reality tv spectrum of media. Where we see a push of negative images of women as catty, confrontational, antagonistic, cantankerous, hypocritical, consumerist and fickle.

Im not slut shaming when I say that we are marketed a paradoxical way of life where prominent celebrities gain their notoriety via selling their sexuality and less so their intellectual and artistic talents. The following are notable people associated with the sex industry at varied levels: Kim Kardashian, Paris Hilton, Pamela Anderson, Cardi B, Nene Leaks, Charlie Sheen, Howard Stern, Hanna Montana, Madonna etc. Some things we don’t need to know. The promote us to have dirty minds – as if we needed any help. What people do in private, or are interested in we do not need to know as long as it isn’t harmful or criminal. I mention this because its just more clickbait noise that is marketed to us.

Now that we have been bombarded by useless information, our minds become cluttered. Having a complete unadulterated thought now takes conscious effort. It may take meditation or isolation or fasting just to get back to who you truly are.  So in conclusion it can be good to cut the cord from the 200 channels of cable, 10 social media platforms, 25 podcasts, 200 facebook friends, 100 instagram friends, 30 youtube channels, 150 phone contacts, 1000 unread emails, and dedicate your focus on yourself.

Social Media Snooping

Social media is a invention we have dealt with for approximately the last 20 years. It is debatable as to whether the world of relationships has adjusted to this new phenomena. Our non-digital reality has been affected but we have not made the needed adjustments. Social media has advantages and drawbacks. Let us start with the bad things first.

Disadvantages:

  • People can be disingenuous.
  • People can spy on you.
  • It is difficult to detach from past loves who you still connect with online.

Advantages:

  • You can get a lot of information(including spying) on a person.

As you can see above there are more disadvantages than advantages. The only advantage is itself a double edged sword but since social media is not going away for the foreseeable future it is better to use it than not.

When you meet a guy and exchange contact information. It is more important to connect to his social media than to his phone number. The social media account will give you an understanding of the following attributes/views:

  • Political
  • Dietary
  • Relationship
  • Humor
  • Family
  • Financial

By connecting with his social media you can quickly find out if you should run or keep studying. You should give yourself some time to observe, collect information and compile it to build a full character picture before addressing any undesirable attributes. If you address the attribute too quickly you may not have given yourself enough time to draw a full picture. Most importantly you should scan all his social media before having any sexual relations and ideally before you go on the first date. This will save a lot of time and can potentially protect your safety.

To identify the attributes that I think should cause you to run please see my other posts. It is also important to consider that many people have multiple social personalities. They have an account that is for the public and an account that is almost anonymous due to the unacceptable behavior they genuinely have. Therefore you have to use more senses and resources than social media. Thank you for reading.

Nothing to lose but your loneliness

Cat ladies of the world unite. You have nothing to lose but your loneliness. There are a lot of good guys. Unfortunately many have become corrupted by pornography, misogyny, and a host of other social afflictions resulting from them projecting their lack of luck with the ladies on others.

If you catch one of these guys before they become a mass shooter or extremist you can possibly tame him. The thing you cannot do when you get into a relationship with him is give him too much of a hard time or too much confidence. Just the right balance of encouragement and discouragement will get you that long term friend. Preventing him from being influenced or corrupted by consumerism is very important. You yourself will have to restrict yourself from the mas consumption and trend following.

I say this because there are parallels with upgrading to the next shiny gadget and him upgrading to the next woman. If you practice a lifestyle of being satisfied with something that works and he also follows the same lifestyle, then he will not think to upgrade to the next model when the opportunity arises.

Consumerism, following trends, materialism, bad-credit, social-media and all that is associated with the aforementioned are your relationship’s enemy. You have to discipline yourself to get to your goal.