It almost goes without saying. You can’t be reborn so your stuck. We just have to be ourselves. Still we can read many report on how people get depressed while browsing social media. At its core is their FOMO and false belief that the people they viewing are actually happier than they are in actuality.
If you think about it, people smile for pictures. When you get fired or dumped you don’t take a selfie of yourself crying. So we don’t get a complete view of a person’s life. We only get to see the part that they present to us. So to envy them is to envy that short second where they forced a smile for the picture, maybe only in hopes that people will like it to make them feel a little better.
Additionally many people believe that being in a relationship is a panacea. All their problems will be solved and they will be happy if they just meet that right person. Those who have recently found religion or converted or gotten “saved” are eventually taught that their new found system of belief requires work and at times more sacrifices than their previous life.
A relationship is work.
I gave that statement its own paragraph so that it would stand out. As its hard to believe this based on the endings of every ROMCOM, holiday cards, facebook, instagram and linked in post. A relationship or marriage is a commitment to work and stay in the organization irrespective of changing conditions. That means no escaping, only working.
I read many posts online on social media of women who strongly desire to be married. They are so focused on this goal that they do not take the time to develop themselves. The example I could give is imagine a younger Oprah who spent her time browsing social media, complaining how terrible men are, simultaneously being love sick and possibly having a on-off relationship with some guy who is really no good for her. So this theoretical younger Oprah never takes he time to look into herself and develop her talents and passions, never reaches the point of a millionaire, a philanthropist, and inspiration, a billionaire.
You don’d have to be in a relationship to be somebody. You are already someone very special, very important and full of unlimited potential. waiting on someone to give you legitimacy is a very dangerous approach. You maybe waiting until never or you could be easily deceived. Be yourself and be the best you that you can be, you deserve the best. Be you.
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