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You Are Special

As a child I felt myself to be a philosopher of sorts. I would say “I can see out of my eyes, and I cant see out of yours.” Mind blowing isn’t it? Maybe not.

If we can only see things from our own eyes it’s then impossible for another peson to fully understand us. Our true feelings, inner struggles, fears and self value.

Therefore as a result of our unique makeup and limited supply(there’s only one you) we are each special and exceptional. To a stranger we are just another one of the billions of humans they must quickly pre-judge on initial encounter. To a partner we are someone they have a collection of information on from which they can attempt to predict our thoughts and actions. A partner can not exist in our hearts and minds and this is why constant communication is necessary.

I am getting off topic. What I want to get to, is though it is a fact that we are all novel, our novelty does not make us exempt. Anything hat has happened to anyone can potenially happen to me.

We should not enjoy seeing others suffer or go throuh drama. We should take a lesson from thier experience and imagine ourselves in thier situation in order to avert a similar outcome. This is one of the issues that I have with reality TV and celebrity gossip. These areas of entertainment make the real life characters seem so far removed that we don’t inherently see them as humans. We don’t empathize. We don’t see how these tragedies could befall us and in some instances where they do happen to us we wonder “why me?” We are special but not exempt.

Think of a bad relationship situation, we woulld like to say it could never happen to us, but I feel it is helpful to review the time line leading up to the bad relationship in order to prevent it from happening o you.

Eastern Promises

Divorce in the United States occurs at a rate of something like 44%. This is for a variety of reasons. As mentioned before in a previous post, relationships have to be reinforced by the community. As much as we consider ourselves as individuals and unique, we are products of our environment. Our environment in the US promotes in our media that we should have multiple partners before settling down and to utilize divorce if you are unhappy, or cheat if you want to find some compromise.

According to a 2015 Washington Post article, divorce among those in the Indian community is between 1% to 15%. Also according to a 1993 study by Pang Linlin the divorce rate in china is between 5% to 8%. This is because the culture of those countries in regards to relationships is to find one and make it work.

My first post on this site recommended that women find themselves a man that is not too intellectually capable. The above information throws that out the window when you go outside of the American pool of men. As is already evident via silicon valley Asian men(India and China) are more committed at rates of up to 11 times more than American men.

In conclusion, it would be wise to entertain more Asian men. Strangely a report produced by the dating site OKCipid showed that Asian men were on the undesirable end of the dating pool with Asian women. This is a mistake on the part of those women. This mistake can be capitalized upon by women all over the world who are subject to dealing with the promiscuity and infidelity of American, European and other Western cultured men.

In conclusion, and Asian man is a better partner in regards to commitment. Not discussed here they are also at the highest earners economically.