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Eastern Promises

Divorce in the United States occurs at a rate of something like 44%. This is for a variety of reasons. As mentioned before in a previous post, relationships have to be reinforced by the community. As much as we consider ourselves as individuals and unique, we are products of our environment. Our environment in the US promotes in our media that we should have multiple partners before settling down and to utilize divorce if you are unhappy, or cheat if you want to find some compromise.

According to a 2015 Washington Post article, divorce among those in the Indian community is between 1% to 15%. Also according to a 1993 study by Pang Linlin the divorce rate in china is between 5% to 8%. This is because the culture of those countries in regards to relationships is to find one and make it work.

My first post on this site recommended that women find themselves a man that is not too intellectually capable. The above information throws that out the window when you go outside of the American pool of men. As is already evident via silicon valley Asian men(India and China) are more committed at rates of up to 11 times more than American men.

In conclusion, it would be wise to entertain more Asian men. Strangely a report produced by the dating site OKCipid showed that Asian men were on the undesirable end of the dating pool with Asian women. This is a mistake on the part of those women. This mistake can be capitalized upon by women all over the world who are subject to dealing with the promiscuity and infidelity of American, European and other Western cultured men.

In conclusion, and Asian man is a better partner in regards to commitment. Not discussed here they are also at the highest earners economically.

Worst foot First

In some situations you may want to save the best for last, such as a meal or a marathon race where you want to pace yourself. In relationships the starting conditions and behaviors set a precedence for the future. So it is one situation where you would like to know the worst case scenario behavior of your love interest.

To be brief, if there are things that you want for the relationship, those things have to be established from the onset. There should be little or no deviation from the conditions that you believe will give you happiness.

Most people put their best forward by being disingenuous, deceptive and compromising of their true intentions. This does not work in the long term as that denial of self or facade is difficult to maintain. Many think that being their real selves will be a deterrent. This is incorrect thinking. Being oneself will attract only those who are in harmony with your plans and intentions. Be your true self from the beginning even if you believe it will deter the person you have interest in. If that is the case that person is not interested in you, only the fake person you are pretending to be.

In conclusion be yourself always and establish your expectations and desires from the beginning and be unwavering. Its not rude, its actually fair to all parties. Saves time and future regret.

Modern vs Traditional

Marriage is a construct of religion. Also religion facilitates the oppression of women and antiquated gender roles. The fickle, on-demand and instant gratification culture that we currently live in, conflicts with long term commitment.

Religion relegates the following roles for women:
-Baby factory
-Housekeeper
-Exclusive child caregiver
-Exclusive elderly caregiver
-Sex doll(receiver only)
-Non factor in decision making
-No representation(non voter/owner)
-Modest
-Captive in the home

Still in our modern times, many wish to have the security of a marriage unfortunately originally based on a oppressive institution for women. Therefore some modifications have to be made if it is to garner you any happiness.

Either your marriage has to be external of religiosity, or it has to be based on a previously agreed customized or new-age social order. A belief system is required because people are kept in line by the collective’s values. If the collective group does not encourage or reinforce a certain belief system, it will not last. That is why couples that are married are encouraged to hang out with other married couples.

A man that is a fundamentalist in his cultural beliefs(religious or ethnic) will desire you to be in a submissive or sub-servient role(Unless he lives in the Aamzon). In such a role you loose power and influence aside from nagging, using guilt, crying etc. These methods can be effective in some cases but if you are an intellectual you may not wish to resort to such banal methods.

In conclusion there needs to be an agreed social order or religion or ethos in a relationship. Also that must be reinforced by associating with those of the same belief system. Too fundamentalist is oppressive and too liberal will not provide enough social pressure to keep him in the relationship. Love is great, but there are many other variables that keep a pair together.

Breaking Bad

I have never actually sen the show breaking bad. The term from my understanding refers to someone making a turning point in life that takes them on a path of malevolence. Every article needs a simple title and I chose it because its already a proven brand. Saying all that, the point of using it, is to say you need to get out of that bad relationship with the self-centered guy.

As described in my first blog post,there are certain men are not able to be domesticated, or not for long. If you happen to be in a relationship with one of those charismatic, well dressed, dancing, tattooed relatively in shape guys you may be dealing with some of the following:
– Un-returned texts
– Un-returned called
– Being stood up
– No commitment
– No exclusivity
– Being a mistress
– Being a friend with benefits

You have to move on to someone who makes you number one. Don’t be with a guy who is in another relationship. Unfortunately guys who are already with someone appear more attractive due to the supply and demand phenomenon. Also they are more attractive as their current relationship advertises(maybe falsely) that they are a great catch. You must not fall into that trap. Even if you are able to win him from his current lady, you are only training him to be deceptive which will result in him being taken from you.

In conclusion do not be something to do when hes bored or feeling amorous(unless that’s your thing). That kind of situation is not a long term strategy.