Tag: fashion

Cute shoes

The other day I went to a discount store looking for shoes to wear to work. I barely remember what pair I was using as my go-to throw-on pair. Ultimately I needed a new pair of corporate casual dogs.

The style was a low cut boot made of leather(sorry vegans). They had a manufactured scuffed finish to them. I thought they were suited for business but edgy enough not to be considered formal attire. So I looked inside to see if they were my size, and they were a half size bigger than my foot. Its for work so I said who am I trying to convince that I have small feet, I am going to get these shoes because I think they are cute on me.

So I purchased them without trying tem on as they were already a size bigger, I dont need to try them on. Next day I start wearing the shoes. I sit at my desk for 10 hours so they barely got much testing aside from getting from my building to my car, and from my car to my office. So for the first week everything was fine.

The second week the left shoe started to feel hot. So I would take it off for a bit while at my desk. The third week it started giving me constant pain on my ring toe(I don’t know the toe nomenclature). I knew the shoes were tight, and uncomfortable but I kept wearing them for another month. They looked good and I couldn’t return them at this point so I decided to stick it out.

Then one day God sent an angel who decided to gift me a new pair of sneakers. They were unprofessional, they were like no sneaker I would usually wear as I mostly wore Converse styled sneakers, but oh my they were comfortable!

I felt as if I was walking on pillows. Maybe not pillows but maybe a hard mattress. Not like walking on alligator teeth like the last pair.

Many of us suffer in terrible relationships. Romantic and plutonic. They cause us so much pain and strife but we continue to punish ourselves because we are more concerned with how things appear or what we believe is expected of us. This is self inflicted torture ands a masochistic , loco way of behaving. I’d go as far as to say it is suicide as hardship is directly associated with shortened life span and poor health.

Don’t wait until 14 days. Send those shoes or people or whatever back to where they came from. You are not here to torture yourself to keep up appearances.

Sub and or Pop Cultures

They say youth is wasted on the young and I agree. Also as many of us are living an extended youth mindset we can be considered to be wasting our whole lives. Traditionally(the main part of my perspective) each stage of life is supposed to give its own prestige, greater understanding, increased wisdom, increased discipline, increased classiness, and just overall increased coolness. These increases come with a full understanding of, and setting ones self apart from the previous stage that was just upgraded. That is speaking traditional…1950s, skip backwards over the industrial age to the Victorian era, skip over colonial times back to Feudalism. I skipped be cause the transition periods in between, involved growing pains that threw a lot of traditional behavior out to make space for massive growth.

Get to the point already, right. Basically don’t be a weirdo. I was trying not to be offensive but I am trying to help. Being different is a natural occurrence and we have to love ourselves the way we are made. Other differences are not innate or natural and are manifestations of our attempts to self-medicate our inner issues.

One thing I have recently learned is to NEVER make a permanent decision in response to a temporary issue. Suicide is at the most extreme end of this statement. Close to suicide is drug abuse in its many forms. Not so much, but still bad are negative thoughts about yourself. Many negative thoughts can be attributed to not accepting oneself, so that’s why it is so important to know that you are…important.

Now how does all of that relate to Pop and Sub culture. Pop culture and sub culture are the same things, momentary. So you cant make a permanent decision around a temporary thing as stated before. Look what happened to the tramp stamp of the late 1990s? As you grow you may not want to date yourself based on a pop culture or subculture permanent mark.

If you ask yourself whether a decision I am going to make will be ok five years later looking back, then you are probably safe. Even if you are in a bad space emotionally or otherwise, that is a temporary condition, believe me. If you are in a great place that can potentially be temporary as I’m sure the tramp stamp was fun for the first three years but that was not part of a five year plan. Fads come and go so often that I won’t get into specifics, as we all have to analyze what we can live with and we always have to live with ourselves.