The word “Agency” as defined by Bing, actually one of the alternate definitions, is “A department or body providing a specific service for a government or similar organization.” We have bodies, check. We provide a variety of services in life, ok, well check that one too. We work for the government, some of us do but not everyone so we wont check that one. So we have two out of three.
Some of us are using our bodies to provide a specific service to a person in secret. That by definition would make us a, secret agent.
I would like to use a cultural reference film to embody a powerful female agent that is on the level of James Bond but I cant think of one. Lets say that you are that secret agent carrying out missions to save the world that no one will ever know about. Wouldn’t that suck?
I mean, you risk your life for people that would never know or appreciate your contribution to their freedom and happiness. There are no medals, no ceremonies and when you die on a mission they pit you in an unmarked grave. Just maybe 30 years later after documents are declassified, someone may mention you in an article, but by then you will be dead and what use is a pat on the back then?
When you meet a guy, it goes without saying that there is a vetting process. At times we may want to keep people out of our business. That gives us the comfort of not being judged and no one likes to be told they are wrong. That is totally understandable but running from correction may cause you to run in the wrong direction.
Friends and family are not there to just cheer on everything we do. They are there to also guide us and help us make the best life choices. If they are truly altruistic in their concern for your well-being. A friend that cheers you on in everything even when you choose to lets say, smoke crack, is not your friend. The one that says, don’t you dare smoke that crack are you stupid, is a good friend, though they could be less harsh with the language you know it is because they care.
The understanding of being a “side-chick” or “jump-off” or whatever more glamorous or comfortable term you choose, is one of a secret agent. The understanding is that your contributions will not be recognized, there will be no ceremonies and if you die on a mission, you may be put in an unmarked grave.
Always, always introduce someone you are dating to people in your social circle that are good judges of character. They may say what re you doing with that guy are you stupid, but don’t overreact. Listen to their reasoning, whether it makes sense and whether you have made an oversight.
I don’t want to scare anyone but I recently read an article about a young woman who met a guy on an app(I’m against apps) face to face at a park. She went missing for about 20 days, and they were able to locate her killer via her phone records. All they found of her were burnt remains. So again, I say, always, always introduce your friends to someone you are dating and if you are meeting someone for the first time I would add that you should have a friend with you.
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