Dating from a woman’s perspective, I would say is similar to sculpting. We don’t make the slabs of marble. We encounter various sizes and colors and qualities of marble throughout life, and sometimes, often times we encounter piles of dirt. So the earth supplies a slab of marble and we provide the dream/vision. Now we have to painstakingly labor to remove the unwanted and irrelevant pieces to achieve the masterpiece.
As previously mentioned, double standards suck, but for safety reasons its better not to be the initiator when you are interested in someone. Therefore the power that remains is in dismissing the ineligible suitors. Just like a sculptor chisels away the unwanted material, similarly guys who do not have the qualities you desire must be dismissed.
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