There was a movie in the 90s, I think it was called Escape from New York which was the sequel to Escape from LA. Or maybe it was the other way around. Anyhow, it was a post-apocalyptic film where everything is burning, perpetual night, and scarce resources.
Previously I spoke about the perils of dating applications. The sheer large number of humanity on those platforms, diminishes individual peoples value in others eyes. If we could see the people of our gender competing with us on the app, we might devalue ourselves also. What typically takes palace is in effect speed dating and the safety of the internet brings out the weirdest kind of people.
Similarly, big cities are huge outdoor dating apps. Millions of competitors vying for attention and other scare resources. Many want to be civilized but the lawless reign supreme as they follow no rules or ethos. We walk past and sometimes step over homeless human beings because we see them every day. We eventually resolve that we are busy in our city life and or this person is just trying to hustle to feed their habit. Total emotional disassociation. Is that a place we want to find a nurturing mate?
Living in a big city is not helpful for a lasting relationship. They are the worst. Too much competition. Rural and suburban areas are more family oriented and communal. Of course there are exceptions and we can tell by listening to country music, that rural life is not perfect, but there is a grand canyon between instability in rural areas and massive instability in the urban area.
Nothing is absolute, but if you think about it life in the city is crazy. The sooner you can escape, the better.
Good Guy Finder 