Tag: breakup

Change is gonna crumble

I can not say that I exercise proper writing technique. Especially in the area of filling a post with filler in order to delay the reader and increase my word count. Writers for actual commercial publications get compensated on the amount of words they can cram into an article. Fortunately for us all, WordPress is a free platform and unfortunately for me I am not being paid to write anything.

Now that that introductory paragraph has delayed you and made me appear as if I am building suspense here is the point I am going to present. Do not enter into a dating or serious relationship or marriage with the hope or intent that the person will change. Some people may make mild adjustments but not major changes. The rare event where people make major changes only occurs when a traumatic or tragic or humbling or embarrassing or horrifying event befalls them. Many people will remain the same even after a horrible event. So the event of you and the person becoming an item will not change them significantly. You have a choice to either accept them as they are or not to get involved with them at all.

Trying to change someone at a later date is deceptive on your part because you did not accept them as you found them. Your change or modification of expectations will come as shock to them and result in push-back or they will repress themselves for a time and eventually explode.

It is better to at the earliest stage determine whether you can accept the person as-is, just like a used car. With no warranties implied. People are not similar to our gadgets that we can change or upgrade. By the time a person is 13 years old they are pretty much on a trajectory they will barely veer from. So when you meet them in thier 20s or later your efforts to change them will result in dissapoitment.

Breaking Bad

I have never actually sen the show breaking bad. The term from my understanding refers to someone making a turning point in life that takes them on a path of malevolence. Every article needs a simple title and I chose it because its already a proven brand. Saying all that, the point of using it, is to say you need to get out of that bad relationship with the self-centered guy.

As described in my first blog post,there are certain men are not able to be domesticated, or not for long. If you happen to be in a relationship with one of those charismatic, well dressed, dancing, tattooed relatively in shape guys you may be dealing with some of the following:
– Un-returned texts
– Un-returned called
– Being stood up
– No commitment
– No exclusivity
– Being a mistress
– Being a friend with benefits

You have to move on to someone who makes you number one. Don’t be with a guy who is in another relationship. Unfortunately guys who are already with someone appear more attractive due to the supply and demand phenomenon. Also they are more attractive as their current relationship advertises(maybe falsely) that they are a great catch. You must not fall into that trap. Even if you are able to win him from his current lady, you are only training him to be deceptive which will result in him being taken from you.

In conclusion do not be something to do when hes bored or feeling amorous(unless that’s your thing). That kind of situation is not a long term strategy.