Why write this blog? Nothing that is in it is new, novel or exceptional. Understandably, how many things do we understand but decide to deal with them as if they are unknown to us? Not many, but relationships and dating seem to be the areas where we do not exercise our knowledge the most.
A bad decision on a vehicle, what to eat, what to wear, where to live, work, study, those things and their benefits/consequences may span a few minutes, years maybe 1, 2,3 or 4 years. Unless you eat poison, but that is a different discussion. On the other hand dating can emotionally and in worst case physically scar you. This can last a lifetime or take a toll on your most productive years(which is any year you are above ground). It may result in a broken hole which can cause generations of unresolved issues. It may result in the loss of finances, missed opportunities, etc.
A more informed or conscientious decision will not guarantee protection from the ills mentioned above, but your chances of success will increase. Increasing our chances of success is the best we can ask for, as in dealing with humans there are no guarantees. We have the capability to deceive, conspire and plot. The greatest indicators of intention in my opinion are actions and transactions. For example a 98 year old billionaire who marries a 20 something year old sex worker. Each one has a condition or angle that to most outsiders appears as a transaction, which I doesn’t need explaining.
So in conclusion we at times need to be reminded to asses people logically first and emotionally secondarily. A relationship is a transaction. Honesty is very rare from others, we have to be truthful with ourselves, and extract the truth from the environmental conditions to determine of the people we encounter are being truthful. This blog is a reminder of what you already know to be truth. I thank you for taking your time to read and I look forward to any comments and advice .
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