Family matters

I’m very fortunate to have a good relationship with my parents. Also with my extended family. That unfortunately may not be true for everyone.

Family may have our best interests at heart, they may also have issues that causes them to be net negatives or saboteurs. Then again our own egos or issues may cause us to misinterpret their intentions.

I can’t fully empathize with those who have a rough relationship with their family. Mostly because I come from a social hierarchy where elders hold rank for lack of a better word. Also my parents have already vetted and indicated which adults are not entitled to trust or to be leaders.

Ultimately they should be able to assist you in your vetting process. They are emotionally and socially invested in your success because they get a selfish sense of accomplishment when you are successful. They are living through you and see you as an extension of themselves.

This may come across as controlling or old fashioned. It may seem like a throwback to arranged marriage even but if you are seeking sustainability and longevity. They can see and consider qualities you may not. A union of two people is a union of families ultimately.