I haven’t had much inspiration to write. Keeping busy is very important to keeping oneself out of trouble. On the other side of being busy you sometimes neglect being thorough. So between my recent and short interest in hair care products and my new interest in starting business I am not doing a thorough job on the blog or the hair thing.
As I am just improvising today I just had a conversation with a friend who works for DoorDash. I ended the call and when I was reading an article, a DoorDash advertisement popped up. Obviously they are also extracting words from my conversations to market products. Which sucks. I would hope my phone conversations were private.
Jumping to a different thought, about two weeks ago I read an article where Miley Cyrus stated she had an unconventional marriage to the actor dude(don’t know his name). This week they have apparently split. It goes without saying that Myley Cyrus is not a example of sustainable behavior. As said before the institution called marriage is a traditionalist institution. Ofcourse it can be modified slightly, but why bother being in a institution where you are not living up to the definition of such. For example a key opens a door. We can try to open a door with a pencil and call it a key but that wont work. Fortunately for Miley she has millions of dollars of cushion to fall back on if things in life go awry. She can afford herself the best psychologists, doctors, therapists, money managers, pastors, estate planners, lawyers etc. You can comfortably live a risky and unsustainable lifestyle when you are relatively young and have a team of advisors and fixers at the ready to pick you up literally and figuratively.
I’m not from the old school or new school. I’m more from the middle school. Double standards stink but new age reckless/unsustainable behavior probably sucks worst. I don’t know the name of Miley’s ex, but from pictures he seemed to have himself together and carried himself as a traditional and overtly respectable person. This seemed very much the contrary to her persona(post Hanna Montana). Still I didn’t expect a split, as I suspected that her behavior was just a parody akin to a Shai Lebouf, Jaoquin Phoenix, and Charlie Sheen. Then again all of those guys I mentioned were actually being serious in their eccentric behaviors. So on second thought it not an act. In recent news Britney Spears another former Disney child actress due to repeated breakdowns has retired from her Las Vegas gig.
Saying all that, we see that an overtly eccentric and raunchy persona is still not accepted, from man or woman. Privately, who cares as long as the standards opf overt decency or whatever is upheld. Many of us in private are eccentric but we are aware that the behavior may not be sustainable as it pertains to our occupation, family and even relationships. Some belive expressing yourself publicly is always right, but its still illegal to shout fire in a crowded movie theater, I think…. Things have to be done at the appropriate time, and that requires discipline and delaying gratification. This is a hard task with Amazon prime, credit cards, instant messaging, on demand movies etc. We are no longer trained to wait for the opportune moment to act. Additionally with many disrespectful behaviors in media we are being trained to behave in ways that ultimately work against our interest and in a moment can misrepresent what we stand for as a whole.
Our current social climate is one of extremism in both directions. You might offend someone even if you are a moderate. You may offend someone even if you have no opinion at all. So when I speak of Miley Cyrus it may be classed as “slut shaming” but in the context of dating and potential long term relationships if not marriage, is he behavior considered congruent? I believe she has as much right as Charlie Sheen and I find them both to exhibit unsustainable relationship behaviors. Am I slut shaming Charlie Sheen? Well I hope those I may offend at least give some credit that I have found them both man and woman not relationship material. In other facets of life they are highly trained professional entertainers. In relationships they are non-sustainable.
I didn’t plan on talking about eccentric/wild overt behavior but sometimes we have to be reminded that we are being watched. Our character is being defined by our overt actions, and even our mistakes. So we have to keep it together, delay gratification and make long term strategic decisions and commitments. Of course you could die tomorrow but I don’t think we want to die tomorrow. Its more likely that we will live and have to deal with the entropy generated by our YOLO philosophy.
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