Good people happen to bad things.

Why me? Why somebody else? Why even bother asking. Maybe the question is why did I create the conditions that permitted this result.

Education, study, research, meditation, observation and critical thinking are not words usually associated with navigating human behavior. That is possibly why we are surprised at a person’s behavior while others expected the behavior almost intuitively.

In my opinion intuition comes from practicing observation and critical thinking. I would go as far to say I suspect people who are considered psychics exercise a high level of people reading. Similarly sales people, con men, psychologists and others.

So if you find yourself in a relationship with a person who exhibit undesirable behaviors that means you failed to analyze them during the dating stage. Likewise if you are dating a person with undesirable behaviors you need to find a way out before things get worse. During the dating phase is when people put on their best face. There are less obligations and expectations which allows all parties to be relaxed and overlook some important indicators.

I once saw a bio on a social media page that stated [Life is hard. Suffering is optional.] While that statement does not apply universally to all satiations, it does imply that suffering is a choice and that you are in control of your life. If you make choices that place you in an environment or relationship where you are suffering, then you are partially if not fully responsible for your current station.

In conclusion I will quote another person. I usually go for a walk during my lunch breaks for exercise. A few times I stop to talk to the groundskeeper of a nearby shopping mall and he gave me this wisdom [Bad cannot come from good and good cannot come from bad.] So the onus is placed on us to create the conditions where we have relationships with people and full our environment with things that respectively practice and produce goodness.