Sabotage

I wrote a blog post about bad company. I have mentioned many times the benefit of avoiding bad company. We are like sponges when it comes to information and emotions but we are unfortunately not omnipotent.

In the past month I have overheard one woman encourage two other women to engage in reckless behavior, all while doing it with a smile under the auspices of friendship. In one occasion she congratulated a young single woman on her new long distance relationship with a musician. Read that sentence again. A long distance relationship with a musician. Is that a paradox or oxymoron or a fairy tail. Anyhow in that instance she had not had much choice but to congratulate her as she was basically screaming it from the rooftops.

Having worked with a few entertainers I would say there is a maybe a 99/100 probability she is not the only one. Although, if that is acceptable to her, it is acceptable to me and that’s great, but that wasn’t the impression she gave. Also there were some financial things involved that made it even worse and you will have to refer to the movie Casino, specifically the relationship between the characters of Robert Dinero and Sharon Stone for a visual. I will not elaborate here.

On the second incident I observed her encourage another young woman to just let go and be free with a guy she just met on Tinder(I hate apps) the same day. The young lady in question has had a history of poor decision making, some even life threatening.

What kind of friend is this you may say? It is what they call a frenemy. Someone who enjoys being in your company and likes to se you fail in order to feel better about themselves. They may not be happy with the terrible reality they have made for themselves and would feel much better if they had company in their suffering. When you laugh, smile, travel, graduate, get attention, or are successful at anything, they feel it is an attack on their person. They want to be included in your comings and goings so that they will have breaking news of your failure.

They can be easily identified as they to bully or manipulate you into behaving according to their flawed modus operandi. They gossip and slander other people who they call friends. People such as these are why you have to refer to traditional tried and true methods of reasoning and courtship.  I am going to conclude by saying, I don’t exaggerate when I say people like this can get you literally killed. You have to asses the conditions in which they live on a deep basis and determine if they are speaking from a place of anger, hate, bitterness, clarity, joy, love or envy.