What you allow will continue.

You, you, you, you. Its really all about you. That is the only person that you have complete control of.

We expect a variety things from our family, friends, partners, strangers and the government. That is based on the structures in society regarding politeness, etiquette, chivalry, legality and other factors. Those cooperative behaviors help us feel more secure.

The unfortunate side of this system is that we feel entitled to certain treatment just for existing. Which sets us up for disappointment. In the wild you have to kill your own food and it is survival of the fittest. The consolation to disappointment from an external source is the reminder that you only have control of yourself. Therefore everything we put in the hands of something or someone is risking that they will handle our trust in the manner we expected or better yet agreed.

Disappointment is a guaranteed part of life but it can be minimized by:

1 – Determining whether you can achieve your intended goal on your own. If yes do so? If not see #2.

2 – Thoroughly evaluating who you are putting trust into. What is their gain? What is their motivation? What is their history? What are their current needs? What are their current problems? What are their morals or ethics? How do they treat people? If any of the above result in a negative answer relative to your interest, then with each negative the trust level should be diminished.

Trust is just a word to use as an example, it can be interchanged with nouns for anything of value. Things of little or no value are also important indicators. If someone cannot be relied upon for something small, that is scalable.

Now, in conclusion. If you allow someone with the negative ends of the above #2 characteristics to gain your trust then you will continue to be dissed, dissatisfied, dismissed, disregarded, disturbed in addition to being disappointed.