Responsibility can be a curse word at times. Adulting is not exactly what we expected during our childhood. Experiencing a sheltered childhood makes adulting more difficult than a unsheltered(difficult) one. In either instance, coming into ones own adds many variables that we now are responsible for.
Historically, religion, culture and social constructs have dictated to us on the ways we are to operate. Many of those antiquated traditional guidelines still provide us with a great autopilot/cruise control in some situations. In other situations, they are not effective because they have not been translated to modern environmental factors. Factors such as psychological advertising, marketing, social media hashtag trends, cable television, psychiatry, urban concrete jungles, fast food and legalized marijuana. Most importantly they are not translatable to the liberation of women, and women’s struggle for equality in our communities.
Stick a pin in the realization that some of the thousand your old traditions don’t work like a Swiss army knife. We can still find uses for, yoga, meditation, holistic medicine, and a few other practices that function independent of a patriarchy.
I am not a religious expert, and less than a novice but I would assume that the polytheistic and eastern religions provide more practical uses than the big three(Christianity, Judaism, Islam).
As English is the worldwide language of business, along with that, Christianity(and the big three) is/are the basis of word religion. Directly that means patriarchy is the dominant culture worldwide. Duuhhh right?
Midway conclusion is that our old tried and true religions are not always fit for our present dilemas. For the purpose of this blog in our modern courtship rituals they are mostly innefective. Yoga pants will get you attention but not necessarily sustainable attention. Nor do I belive there were such things as yoga pants 2000 years ago.
The question of whether you are in a good place is tied to your living conditions, diet, health, comfort, sleep, state of mind, career, debt, etc. Don’t get overwhelmed. We have to wear many hats to get what we need out of life.
Dating or being in a relation ship with another person now increases that responsibility to keep it all together. Therefore it is ill advised to start either while you are unprepared in your solitary situation.
We at times seek to escape out difficult circumstances using entertainment, vacations, medication, sex, food and you name it. But those just temporarily suppress symptoms. What is needed is actual solutions, actual cures, actual change to eliminate the need to escape or tolerate a poor quality of life.
Some examples would be, a financial advisor, a physical trainer, a psychologist, a nutritionist, a headhunter, even a real estate agent. People that can set you in the direction of self sustainability.
As my scope of work is in meeting the right person and not theology, yoga, nutrition, physical training, etc. I will conclude by saying that it is most important to take your time to have peace with yourself before hitching on to someone else’s wagon. That wagon may come with its own baggage, and being well will allow you to avoid or if you choose handle their baggage. Hopefully the former.
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