Marriage is a construct of religion. Also religion facilitates the oppression of women and antiquated gender roles. The fickle, on-demand and instant gratification culture that we currently live in, conflicts with long term commitment.
Religion relegates the following roles for women:
-Baby factory
-Housekeeper
-Exclusive child caregiver
-Exclusive elderly caregiver
-Sex doll(receiver only)
-Non factor in decision making
-No representation(non voter/owner)
-Modest
-Captive in the home
Still in our modern times, many wish to have the security of a marriage unfortunately originally based on a oppressive institution for women. Therefore some modifications have to be made if it is to garner you any happiness.
Either your marriage has to be external of religiosity, or it has to be based on a previously agreed customized or new-age social order. A belief system is required because people are kept in line by the collective’s values. If the collective group does not encourage or reinforce a certain belief system, it will not last. That is why couples that are married are encouraged to hang out with other married couples.
A man that is a fundamentalist in his cultural beliefs(religious or ethnic) will desire you to be in a submissive or sub-servient role(Unless he lives in the Aamzon). In such a role you loose power and influence aside from nagging, using guilt, crying etc. These methods can be effective in some cases but if you are an intellectual you may not wish to resort to such banal methods.
In conclusion there needs to be an agreed social order or religion or ethos in a relationship. Also that must be reinforced by associating with those of the same belief system. Too fundamentalist is oppressive and too liberal will not provide enough social pressure to keep him in the relationship. Love is great, but there are many other variables that keep a pair together.
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